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Claiming the Unseen

Believing in the unseen is not an easy task for us humans. In fact, God designed us with the gift of physical sight so that we can assess our surroundings and respond to external stimuli.

Let’s take a look at the following scenario below:

While enjoying a brisk morning walk through a local park, imagine that you begin to notice something large and colorful slithering along the pathway ahead of you. This immediately registers in your brain as something dangerous, causing your pupils to dilate in order to see the object more clearly.

Like a dam with broken gates, your adrenal glands begin the “fight or flight” response by pushing out epinephrine. Your heart rate is high, and blood is quickly pooling into your muscles as you prepare to dash away from that vicious reptile as fast as you can.

This example showcases how we, as humans, are created to make decisions based on what we can physically see.

Now, how about when God speaks, but there’s no tangible evidence to support what He’s clearly telling you?

Nothing to stimulate your physical receptors – you can’t see, touch, smell, or taste what He is instructing you to do or promising will come your way.

Like a spouse. Or a job. Maybe a ministerial calling. Perhaps even physical healing in your own body. Or an unborn child.

How then are we to respond when God is clearly speaking, but we are NOT clearly seeing?

Trust in Him. And wait for Him to move.

“Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.” Psalm 27:14

We have to stop looking for the supernatural with the natural.

We can’t expect to immediately see what God is spiritually speaking. I personally find this very challenging – to not only believe (and hope) in what God is telling me is true, but also to wait in patience for His perfect timing to arrive.

And this is where I am today. I’m waiting for several promises to be delivered. Perhaps you are as well.

“I wait for the Lord, my soul waits, and in his word, I put my hope. My soul waits for the Lord more than watchmen wait for morning, more than watchmen wait for morning.” Psalm 130:5-6

“For in it the righteousness of God is revealed from faith for faith, as it is written, “The righteous shall live by faith.”Romans 1:17

“So faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ.” Romans 10:17

This is faith, beloved. It’s clinging to what we hope for and expectantly waiting for that which remains unseen.

What I find most profound about this entire experience is that it actually has NOTHING to do with what I’m waiting for. It is actually about how I am seeing God in the process.

“Am I really perceiving Him as a good God who is truly for my good?”

“Am I truly believing that He is actually in control and doesn’t need my personal contributions (to speed up the process)?”

“Do I truly trust that He will take care of me and not make a mess out of my life?”

These are real questions that many of us have. And these are the ones that carry weight in God’s heart.

He wants us to know Him as He truly is. For many of us as His children, this will include walking into unfamiliar territory in order to grow in full dependence on Him with our lives.

“And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to Him must believe that He exists and that He rewards those who earnestly seek Him. ” Hebrews 11:6

May you be encouraged and challenged (just as I am) by the following Scripture provided by the Lord to me this morning:

“My heart is not proud, O Lord, my eyes are not haughty; I do not concern myself with great matters or things too wonderful for me. But I have stilled and quieted my soul; like a weaned child with its mother, like a weaned child is my soul within me. O Israel, put your hope in the Lord both now and forevermore.” Psalm 131

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The Power in Developing Boundaries with Family and Friends

Taken from the  book titled Boundaries, the authors Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, state the following:

Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives.”

The process for setting boundaries is a piece of cake,  but it’s the implementation of these same boundaries that can become quite difficult. I’ve been down this road before, and just as anything in life – it becomes easier to do the more it’s practiced.

For several months, I inherently wished that boundaries weren’t even necessary in my relationships. “Couldn’t we all just get along without them?”, I thought to myself.

In my mind, boundaries appeared as a reactive response to a sinful world. For this reason, it was never a positive experience for me. However, over the years the Lord has shown me that in His goodness He wisely implemented boundaries as part of His creation, before sin ever entered the world (refer to yesterday’s post HERE).

Therefore, boundaries must be essential to life. So, it’s wise for us to evaluate the state of our relationships and those we allow to influence our lives.

Let’s take a glance at the following scriptures the Lord directed me to this morning concerning relational boundaries:

1. We have specific roles within relationships, we cannot be all things to all people. Depending on the context of the relationship, we adopt certain roles. For example: ‘You are a child of God, but you are not someone’s Holy Spirit.’ ‘You are a daughter of your mother, but you’re not your mother’s parent, you’re her daughter.’ These are distinct roles that can easily become distorted if appropriate boundaries are not put in place. And protected.

We are to be in relationship with other people, this is very healthy. However, we are only expected to love them through the heart of Christ within specified boundaries. We need God’s wisdom to show us how to implement either a healthy detachment (separation) from an individual, or to instruct our hearts on specific issues that need to be addressed in the relationship. If something about the person’s actions causes you to feel anxious, guilty, shameful, or depressed, then these are pretty strong indicators on where you can start in your conversation with the Lord. The Holy Spirit doesn’t adopt the role as the Savior of the world. That belongs to Jesus. We also need to evaluate our proper roles in the relationships we have while operating in His love.

For there are three that bear record in heaven, the Father, the Word, and the Holy Ghost: and these three are one.” 1 John 5:7

“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” Romans 12:18

2. Developing intimate relationships with non-believers. This is a sticky topic. I have unbelievers in my life that I absolutely adore. I’m sure we all do. You know Jesus is in the same situation? Not everyone believes in Him nor do they accept Him as their Savior, but He still loves them. And we should do the same. He died for us all. I personally hold a conviction to intentionally seek out relationships with unbelievers and lavish them with Christ’s love. But, I also have limits. The Word does provide caution for developing intimate relationships with non-believers in order to keep a clear conscious by avoiding worldly influence. To be yoked with another individual means to clamp to another, to be enslaved by them, or to tie and link together. And it is incredibly wise for us to evaluate how closely linked we are to those who do not live by the Word. Once again, we are to love, but to love wisely.

“Do not be deceived:’Bad company ruins good morals’.” 1 Corinthians 15:33

“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14

“So, because you are lukewarm, and neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth.” Revelation 3:16

“For the whole law is fulfilled in one word: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” Galatians 5:14

“Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” Romans 12:21

“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you.” Matthew 7:1-2

3.  We cannot fix the problems of others. We must have the ability to say “no” to harmful things in our lives. This is a strong boundary that needs to be in place across the board. It is Jesus who carries the burdens of others, not us. That is why He is the Savior of the world. We also cannot rescue people from experiencing the consequences of their bad decisions. They are robbed from the opportunity to learn and grow, meanwhile our hearts grow hard and resentful. God never intended for us to play the role of a Savior in anyone’s life.

“For each will have to bear his own load.” Galatians 6:5

“A man of great wrath will pay the penalty, for if you deliver him, you will only have to do it again.” Proverbs 19:19

“Therefore, my dear friends, as you have always obeyed-not only in my presence, but now much more in my absence-continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in you to will and to act according to his good purpose.” Philippians 2:12-13

“Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Galatians 6:7-8

4. We cannot allow others to manipulate us. What is manipulation? It is defined as the devious influence for one’s own advantage. I don’t like manipulation. It’s when people place a guilt trip on you for not doing what they want you to do. It’s that feeling of resentment and regret for spending hours of your day on something you never wanted to do in the first place. This isn’t the cheerful giving that Jesus was referring to, it’s far from it, beloved. It’s an unhealthy tactic coming from a boundaryless person looking to serve their own agenda. And the Lord is telling us to say ‘no’ in love.

“For freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery.” Galatians 5:1

“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7

“Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves.” Matthew 7:15

“Each one must give as he has decided in his heart, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.” 2 Corinthians 9:7

May the Lord guide us in the boundaries we need to set with our family members, friends, and those we interact with day to day, in order that we might experience the greatest joys found in a healthy relationship. He is beyond able to instruct us on where these protective borders need to be. Trust in Him, beloved. He will equip you for the task. Stay tuned for tomorrow’s post on setting boundaries for the mind.

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A Letter of Gratitude

Gratitude - 10-2013

Dear Jesus,

Thank You that my heart is beating today; it doesn’t have to, but it is. Thank You. Thank You Lord for keeping me from radiation treatments after miraculously healing me from melanoma carcinoma. Thank You. Thank You Jesus for giving me a second chance in marriage. Thank You for forgiving my mistake in being more about my own agenda than listening to You. Thank You for, in Your grace, extravagantly blessing me with my prince charming, Keith Becker. Thank You for giving us the money to have a beautiful wedding and experience the best from Your hand. Thank You for preparing a table for me in the presence of my enemies and allowing me to experience the deepest of betrayal so that I may learn how to live out true forgiveness. What a life-long lesson I hope to never forget, Lord.

Thank You, from the depths of my heart, for healing me from my pool of insecurities. Thank You for allowing me to see myself as You see me – a royal daughter of the King that is ravishing to the point that I melt Your holy heart. Thank You that I can look at my reflection in the mirror and be well-satisfied. I accept my imperfections, but I delight in all the good I possess through You. What a sigh of relief You have given me, Lord. I’m thankful that You don’t take me as seriously as I often take myself. You teach me to be child-like – to laugh often, to share with others, to love in abundance, and to forgive quickly when someone offends me. Thank You that You truly are The Way (the instruction) to a life well-lived and in abundance.

Thank You for my comfy bed. Thank You that I have heat in my home. Thank You Lord for the variety of fresh fruits and vegetables I have at my disposal. The homeless man that I saw yesterday on the corner doesn’t have that option. Even You Lord said in Your Word that “foxes have holes and birds of the air have nests, but the Son of Man has no place to lay his head.” Thank You Jesus for Your provision. Thank You for a hot shower. I remember my days in Mexico when hot water wasn’t always available. Thank You for the peace in our home. I know there are countless lives in Syria that can only dream of experiencing safety and peace again. Thank You Jesus.

Thank You for being so faithful to me, even when I’m faithless and I’m not trusting in You but putting my security in my circumstances. Thank You for being patient with me since I make a lot of mistakes. I’m very grateful for Your abundance of grace. Thank You for being in control, because if I were in control I’d probably be doing the wrong thing in the wrong place and filled with frustration and discouragement. Thank You for always being right on time as You order my steps as Your righteous child.

Thanks for being You. You’re so dependable and loyal to me. I hope that I can offer You the same in this lifetime. Thanks for letting me be me, and not forcing me to be something or someone that I am not. That’s what makes You so cool and approachable. Thanks Jesus for being a perfect gentleman. Not once have You personally forced Yourself on me; I cannot say the same about people or religion. I love You, Jesus. With all my heart, I love You, my King. May Your holy heart smile as You know how truly special You are to me.

Your Beloved Daughter,

Christy Becker

What are you thankful for today?

“I will exalt you, my God the King;I will praise your name for ever and ever.Every day I will praise you
and extol your name for ever and ever. Great is the Lord and most worthy of praise;his greatness no one can fathom.One generation commends your works to another;they tell of your mighty acts.They speak of the glorious splendor of your majesty—and I will meditate on your wonderful works.They tell of the power of your awesome works—and I will proclaim your great deeds.They celebrate your abundant goodnessand joyfully sing of your righteousness.” Psalm 145:1-7

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