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7 Steps: A Taste of Inner Healing through Deliverance

As I sit in a café at the center of the East Atlanta village, the Lord is asking me to share some specific truths with you today. In this lifetime, I have had to overcome a great deal of trauma. At one point, the weight of it led me straight to my knees in utter desperation for divine intervention. That also led me into the comfy chair of a Christian counselor, where I received counseling over about four years. We covered every area where I possibly could have created or accepted some distorted view of God, myself, and others.

Part of my counseling was a specialized therapy known as deliverance counseling, an entire niche of counseling that incorporates the basic, biblical principles of receiving full redemption through the grace and power of Jesus Christ. And on Monday, we’ll release an incredible interview (on this very topic) from a L.P.C. (Licensed Professional Counselor) with the intent to gain a deeper knowledge in understanding the value of therapy (as a conduit for the healing power of Jesus) in our lives.
By leaning on His strength, this process is actually incredibly simple, yet it has the potential to usher in a profoundly powerful, life-changing experience.

Deliverance counseling addresses all of the lies that somehow took root in our lives. These very lies (in the form of spiritual weeds) can become full-time residents in our heart, even destroying entire areas. Hence, we can arrive at a place where counseling becomes a necessity.

If you are not living to the potential God has created you for, I guarantee there are some lies that have grown to the point where they now influence your choices today. (And if you don’t know the specific lies, e pray and ask the Holy Spirit to reveal them.)

Here are 7 steps that I was taught about receiving God’s healing and truth in areas of my heart that had been filled with lies:

1.       Begin to praise the name of the Lord. Thank Him for all the things He has done for you in your life. This action welcomes the presence of the Lord.

“Oh come, let us sing to the Lord; let us make a joyful noise to the rock of our salvation! Let us come into his presence with thanksgiving; let us make a joyful noise to him with songs of praise! For the Lord is a great God, and a great King above all gods. In his hand are the depths of the earth; the heights of the mountains are his also. The sea is his, for he made it, and his hands formed the dry land.” Psalm 95:1-5

2.       Ask the Holy Spirit to open your heart to receive what He shows you. Ask for a spirit of humility.

“Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will exalt you.” James 4:10

3.       Pray for Jesus to show you (through revelations from the Holy Spirit) what lies you are believing in your heart. Ask Him to bring what is in darkness into light, that you may be made free.

“Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me and know my anxious thoughts;And see if there be any hurtful way in me, and lead me in the everlasting way.” Psalm 139:23-24

4.       Once specific lies come to mind, ask Jesus Christ for forgiveness in believing these lies. Repentance brings healing.

“If my people who are called by my name humble themselves, and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land.” 2 Chronicles 7:14

5.      Next, you need to renounce each lie with the power and authority Christ has given you. You have power over all darkness because Jesus has conquered the grave.

“I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.”John 16:33

“But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit has come upon you, and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the end of the earth.”Acts 1:8

6.       Next, you will need to counter each lie with God’s truth. Emptying yourself of lies through His power is imperative, but you must also replace it with biblical truth.

“When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth, for he will not speak on his own authority, but whatever he hears he will speak, and he will declare to you the things that are to come.” John 16:13

Here is an example of some verbiage: “I rebuke and renounce this lie that I am not worthy to be loved in the name of Jesus Christ. I refuse to believe this lie, because God’s word says that He loved me so much that He sent His only begotten Son – Jesus Christ to die for me (John3:16). I am worthy to be loved because I am made in His image according to Genesis 1:27″

7.       If the enemy attempts to tempt you with this lie again, you should repeat the exact same steps. For example, if you’ve repeatedly struggled with feelings of unworthiness, immediately rebuke it with the power He’s given you and speak the truth over yourself, as in steps one through six.

“Be of sober spirit, be on the alert. Your adversary, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.” 1 Peter 5:8

Don’t be deceived; as the enemy continues to throw out these lies, they can (slowly but surely) perpetuate both low self-esteem and various fears. If you take no action, those lies will not go away. However, our intentional action (through the grace of our Lord) does make an impact, and we must be alert and cunning (with God’s strength). May His will be done, and may He alone be glorified!

Join us on Monday for an incredible interview with a sharp, Jesus-loving, deeply gifted counselor as she shares her heart on the power of therapy within the Christian community. Prepare to gain insight and perhaps to be challenged.

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Healing a Heart with Humility: A Story of Forgiveness

In that moment of pain and rejection I described yesterday at the hands of a pastor, the Lord graciously provided me with further instruction: “Christy, I want you to forgive that pastor. Not because he deserves it, but because I do. I want you to humble yourself and remember that I am the One you are doing this for, and I am the One who sees you and rewards you. If you serve Me for the sake of other people’s approval, that is not true humility. When you do it for Me regardless of what people say, that is true humility

“Whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted.” Matthew 23:12

“But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, ‘God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble’.” James 4:6

Although we can never actually experience the full anguish of Christ’s death on the cross, I definitely felt Jesus could already relate to what I was experiencing. His people spit on Him as He offered Himself as a sacrifice for their sins. Because He did this for us, I felt peace in knowing that if He could do it, and He lives in me, then I can endure my own trials too. I could forgive the very people that were rejecting Christ in me. The very ones that should be loving and kind were instead spitting on my very soul with their lashes of profanity. Through the grace of Christ, I forgave that pastor.

The Lord was not done guiding me yet: “Christy, I also want you to be the one that prays over this pastor today, and I want you to give him your team’s farewell gift. Humble yourself, and I will exalt you. I will resist the proud, but give grace to the humble.”

With that instruction, I wiped my face, opened the door, and sat back down with my team. His grace was mightily sufficient for me. Inside the walls of that church, I was living the impossible made possible only with the power of Christ. Only after we had departed later that afternoon did I share with our team leader what the pastor had said.  .

“A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1

“When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with the humble is wisdom.” Proverbs 11:2

Anytime I think of humility, I remember that moment of forgiveness through Christ. Today, I want to encourage you, beloved. The Lord has laid on my heart a burden for those of you that have been deeply wounded, rejected, and abandoned by the church – by leaders who should have been kind, compassionate, and gentle shepherds. Instead, they were tyrannical, foolish, or lacking in wisdom. They may have driven you to fester with anger towards His bride, towards those who love God, or even towards God Himself.

Always remember that people are only people. They are not God. Even those that deeply love Jesus will make some serious mistakes. Don’t judge God’s people based on what you have experienced with individuals. Don’t place your eternal faith and hope in God into the hands of fallen humans. You will always be disappointed.

Within the “churched” world, you can always find some set of legalistic laws to keep, some unrighteous judgements to make, or some hyper-spiritual rituals you must practice in order to be accepted by someone’s flawed vision of God. Why? Because every church is full of broken people, which is exactly where God wants them. This is the irony of the whole thing. Don’t lose your faith in God because of a choice one man or woman made. Don’t allow their sin to cause you to sin. Take full responsibility for your faith, and stop blaming this person for forcing you to leave behind your One true love, Jesus Christ.

“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you.” Matthew 7:1-2

“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” 1 John 1:9

“Behold, the Lord’s hand is not shortened, that it cannot save, or his ear dull, that it cannot hear; but your iniquities have made a separation between you and your God, and your sins have hidden his face from you so that he does not hear.” Isaiah 59:12

Will the church save you? No. But is it important? Yes. And is it biblical? Yes. May you humble yourself through the grace of Jesus Christ, to forgive those who’ve hurt you, and move on. He’ll take care of the rest for you. Stay in His word, beloved, and take charge of your personal walk with Christ.

“All these things my hand has made, and so all these things came to be, declares the Lord. But this is the one to whom I will look: he who is humble and contrite in spirit and trembles at my word.” Isaiah 66:2
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Secrets to Wise Dating: What Jesus Taught Me About The Process

As Keith and I just celebrated three incredible years as husband and wife, I began thinking how dating and engagement can be valuable preparatory tools for marriage. At least they certainly were for us.

Since we’ve been married, the Lord has graciously brought many women and couples that are seeking wise council in this area of dating to me. Perhaps He opened these doors because I am married – and very happily married. Or perhaps because anyone who knows me well also understands the gruesome trauma I endured years ago in a former relationship.

In the aftermath of that pain, the Lord guided me in making exceedingly wise decisions by fully evaluating what it would mean to date another man. In particular, the need to examine my own heart emerged during this time, which required tremendous humility. Praise be to God that this humility is available through the grace of Jesus Christ. And praise be to God that He led me into the arms of the man that He had always intended for me to marry while forgiving me of my erroneous ways.

“You have turned for me my mourning into dancing; You have loosed my sackcloth and girded me with gladness, that my soul may sing praise to You and not be silent. O LORD my God, I will give thanks to You forever.” Psalm 30:11-12

In the past, Jesus wasn’t included in my love life. Howevertoday He is my love life. Whether you are a woman or a man, this is the single biggest difference between choosing a healthy, sustainable relationship or settling for less.

Today, I am speaking solely from my heart. These are my opinions about dating relationships. And these ideas were birthed through wise counsel from my God-fearing mentor, Christian counseling, biblically-based studies on marriage, prayer, fasting, studying God’s word, and my own personal experiences with Christ. Thankfully, God equipped me with the wisdom to make some great choices, which I am abundantly enjoying the fruit of today. Here are a few points of wisdom that I have developed through my own journey concerning dating:

1. Get healed. Focus on inner healing as preparation to offer 100% of yourself instead of looking for someone to fully complete you. Have you endured a traumatic experience in your past (divorce, the death of a parent or sibling, any form of abuse and neglect, unhealthy romantic relationships, porn addictions, drug or alcohol abuse, etc.)? We all generally have something that we are dealing with.

If we haven’t allowed Jesus to fill the voids within us, then the person that you date will soon become your “temporary fix”, almost like a savior of sorts. This is dangerous territory that quickly drives individuals into unhealthy habits. Other people cannot heal us; Jesus heals us. Marriage cannot complete us; it compliments us. Marriage is a full-time ministry, and dating is a gateway of preparation for what lies ahead. Any issues that remain unsettled before you wed will undoubtedly emerge during marriage, demanding countless hours of time and energy that could be spent elsewhere.

For the sake of you and your future spouse, please get with Jesus and get your life together before you involve another person. This is loving and very wise.

“You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.” Jeremiah 29:13

2. Know what you want before you set out for it. Proactively list out the things that are most important to you (and to Jesus) in your future companion. Don’t date anyone that you could not marry. Let that soak in deep.

Months before I even knew Keith, Jesus and I sat together and wrote out my “non-negotiables.” These were the very characteristics that we (Jesus and I) felt were most important in my future husband. I trusted that if God welcomed this activity (of planning in faith), He would be faithful to provide the man that would possess them. And He did. Be specific in what is important to your heart.

“The LORD directs the steps of the godly. He delights in every detail of their lives.” Psalm 37:23

3. Date with the intention of being married. Dating is often described with terms such as courting, becoming more than friends, seeing each other, going out, or going steady. No matter what words are used, the implication is that an intimacy will be developed between two people. However, if you are not really ready for commitment, then what’s the real motivation behind pursuing an intimate and romantic relationship?

In my opinion, dating “socially” without a pathway that leads to commitment is an absolute waste. A waste of time, emotions, financial resources, mental space, and the very heart that God faithfully entrusted to you. Shouldn’t we be faithful stewards (managers) in every area of our lives? I’m not saying that you must talk about marriage during your first few dates, but I am suggesting that you should be intentional with how you spend your time and where you invest your heart. This is just wise.

“The simple believe anything, but the prudent give thought to their steps.” Proverbs 14:15 

Here are four steps that I would suggest to anyone that is serious about seeking a committed relationship:

  1. Know what you want in a spouse beforehand and begin praying for that person. This immediately establishes ‘Jesus as Lord’ over the entire relationship.
  2. Establish a solid, respectful, and maturing friendship long before you pursue a romantic relationship in courtship.
  3. Before you become an official couple, engage in honest and open dialogue. Seek to understand the other person’s intentions and motives in desiring a relationship with you. Never make assumptions in this area, beloved. Then seek to understand the Lord’s intentions with the relationship (by praying individually and together). Remember, God will never misdirect you if you are actively including Him in your relationship. He will tell you to continue pursuing it or to walk away. Even if it hurts, we must listen to Him. It will save years of devastating heartache.
  4. Surround yourself with a loving and God-fearing community. It’s extremely wise to have friends and family that will hold you accountable in your relationship. Actively surround yourself with people who have healthy and mature relationships.

“Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.” Proverbs 13:20

“The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom, and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.” Proverbs 9:10

Thank you for choosing His Daily Dose! May you each diligently seek the Lord in your dating pursuits so that perfect His will may be made evident in your lives.

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