“Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith, and in purity.” 1 Timothy 4:12
This scripture is jumping off the pages at me today.
And I’m going to be real candid today because I think people need to hear the truth.
Let’s talk about sex.
Not in a churchy fashion, but the reality of what we are faced with day in and day out.
I’m tired of seeing women in low cut blouses flaunting their cleavage for all men to see (probably because I used to be one of them and I know why they do it). And what’s up with jamming out to songs with lyrics like: “your sex takes me to paradise” and “cause I know he has a wife at home, but I just need one night alone”?
I’m completely over in hearing how men are being convicted of pimping teenage girls on the streets. And why is a Gentleman’s Club advertised for gentlemen? A gentleman is defined as “a man of good family or manners”, not one who is entertained by a naked woman (who has been raped, abused, and sexually violated as a child) dancing on a pole. Let’s walk in truth here beloved and call things as they are.
We all have a sex drive. And despite what many people may think, that sex drive is good. It is a gift from God.
And the enemy knows it. This master of deceit takes the gift and creates a facade of erotic indulgence where there’s no penalty for feeding our sexual appetites. This completely contradicts the truth:
“Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction;the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.” Galatians 6:7-8
Many of us see sex, think sex, talk about sex, and even dream about sex. But, do we really understand sex? The way it was created to be from the beginning?
Let’s dive a bit deeper.
Sex is POWERFUL. It is the deepest expression of love for one another. The deepest. And that is why it’s reserved for your spouse alone.
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” Genesis 2:24
Sex is a gift. A beautiful and incredible gift that He entrusts to us to steward (manage) well. This sacred gift belongs to the Lord (He gave it to us, so it is His) until the day we are married. Once “the two become one flesh” then we are freely able to bless our spouse with this delightful surprise! Get excited!
“Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.” Song of Songs 2:7
Sex is designed to bring pleasure. It’s to be enjoyed. The genitalia contain thousands of nerve endings (12,000 combined in males and females) that run through the spinal cord up to the brain in order to provide incredible sensations during intercourse. I personally think it is brilliant and incredibly loving on His part to create us in this fashion.
“Awake, north wind, and come, south wind! Blow on my garden, that its fragrance may spread abroad. Let my lover come into his garden and taste its choice fruits.” Song of Songs 4:16
He wants us to enjoy sex. Because it’s a good thing when it’s done His way.
None of us are oblivious to the fact that sex is for procreation. But, think about this truth for a second. We as humans are given the opportunity to partner with the Living God to create another mortal being. Mind-blowing. So, it should come as no surprise that that the deepest act of love and affection, we as human beings can share, would be the very means to which this new life was created. Wow.
This is just beautiful. Absolutely beautiful.
Lastly, sex is an act of worship to our Loving Father. I know this may be an interesting (or even weird to a few) paradox, but it’s a conviction that the Holy Spirit has placed on my heart. I think God wants to be welcomed into the marital bedroom. I mean He’s the One who created sex, so why would we sheepishly disconnect Him during these intensely deep and intimate moments?
Sex is a selfless experience of giving oneself away to their beloved spouse in hopes to bring them and the Lord great pleasure. Sex is holy. And it must be treated this way.
I promise you beloved, none of the following will truly fulfill your desire for sex:
- Romance Novels
- Sex-help books (Kama Sutra)
- Adulterous relationships (extramarital affair)
- Sexual relationships outside of marriage
They all may temporarily satisfy the physical, but the soul will remain empty. When we step outside of His holy boundaries (protection), we will always end up in a dangerous place.
Beloved, how can we expect Him to bless the very thing in which He speaks against in His Word? We must walk in truth beloved. It is “truth that sets us free.”
Let me encourage in taking a closer look to what God is saying to us about sex and marriage through His Word:
“Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” 1 Corinthians 6:18-20
Run far away from sexual temptations. Remember your body is not even your own. It belongs to God as a dwelling place for His Spirit.
“Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.” Hebrews 13:4
Extramarital affairs are not okay. I would go onto say that if marriage is truly held in honor by you, then any form of entertainment encouraging an adulterous affair needs to be removed from your influence (this includes movies, porn, books, etc). Trust me from personal experience, stay away from anything that could tempt you in this area.
“But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.” 1 Corinthians 7:2-4
Sex is to be enjoyed within the covenant of marriage, eliminating any other options.
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:27-28
This is for men and women. It’s not okay to imagine another person in bed, or to wonder what their body looks like without clothing. If anything causes these images to dwell in your mind, I would strongly suggest removing them to protect yourself. Let’s embrace purity. We win on all ends when we follow after the Lord’s heart. He created sex, just as He created marriage and even our genitalia.
Since He is the Creator of it all, I think He knows a thing or two on how sex should be experienced.
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