“Do not judge by appearances, but judge with right judgment.” John 7:24
Last time I checked there were no crystal hearts. None within the human body at least.
Yet, day in and day out, we treat others as though these exist. We presume to know exactly what people are thinking and feeling, forming unfair judgements about them. Or about a situation.
These are most often misguided beliefs that can lead us into serious danger. They cause us to judge, to complain, to gossip, to form prejudices, and to become apathetic towards others.
And most of all: assumptions catalyze division within relationships. The very thing our Lord teaches against in His Word:
“I appeal to you, brothers, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that all of you agree, and that there be no divisions among you, but that you be united in the same mind and the same judgment.” 1 Corinthians 1:10
An assumption is defined as something that is accepted as true or as certain to happen, without proof (reason, argument, evidence, verification, confirmation).
We form judgements of another person(s) without any evidence to secure these beliefs. We look at people as though they have crystal hearts with their souls on display.
This is far from wise. In fact, assumptions will lead us down a highway of deception. They limit our thinking and understanding of others and produce tension in our relationships. We are called ‘to love one another as we love ourselves’. And assumptions build walls that hinder this call to love.
Let’s take a look at what the Word tells us regarding this issue of assumptions:
“But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at the height of his stature, because I have rejected him; for God sees not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7 NASB
“Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts.” – Psalm 139:23
“As water reflects a face, so a man’s heart reflects the man.”- Proverbs 27:19
The Lord is the only one who understands our own hearts. We cannot even fully know ourselves without His help. I encourage you, beloved, to love one another as Christ loves us in fulfilling His command:
“Jesus replied: ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and will all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” Matthew 22:37-40
And avoid the trap of assumptions. Because there are no crystal hearts in the human race.
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